Secrets and techniques are by no means an effective way to start out a relationship, particularly if you happen to’re holding them from household. 90 Day Fiancé: The Different Method‘s Julio Moya caught some flak from each his mom and his Dutch fiancé Kirsten Schoemaker for not brazenly revealing that he was relationship somebody abroad for a 12 months. Whereas Julio did not get a ton of time to defend himself within the episode, the TLC star shared his perspective on the state of affairs throughout a latest interview with CinemaBlend.
I just lately had an opportunity to meet up with the 90 Day Fiancé forged member, and through our chat, we tapped into the storyline of him holding his relationship a secret from his mom. Julio wished to set the report straight by first mentioning that Kirsten wasn’t a whole stranger to others in his life, and he additionally defined why he did not see an issue with ready so long as he did earlier than introducing her to his mom. This is what he informed me:
So, it’s not that I stored Kirsten a secret. My finest good friend, they knew about her. I’d say the closest individuals to me knew about her. It was simply a kind of conditions the place we’ve been relationship for a 12 months or so, however we solely truly noticed one another in particular person 5 instances. So, you recognize, I wished to have the ability to reside together with her. We lived final 12 months for the month of July and August within the Netherlands collectively earlier than I used to be truly capable of solidify that we may co-exist with one another.
Julio made quite a lot of sense in his justification above, although anybody who watched 90 Day Fiancé: The Different Method by way of a Max subscription may see it wasn’t cool together with his mom or his fiancé. Kirsten was offended as a result of she felt like she was hidden from some of the essential individuals in his life, which would definitely be alarming for nearly anybody who was engaged.
For Julio, the state of affairs was extra nuanced. As he talked about above, he wished to make sure that his relationship with Kirsten was going to final earlier than bringing her round household when the true conversations would begin taking place. He defined why he was hesitant to inform his mom and the questions he’d have to search out solutions for as quickly as she knew about Kirsten:
After which, you recognize, me coming from a Hispanic family, it’s not straightforward for me to just about simply carry anybody house and introduce them to my mother. As soon as I begin doing that, that’s when the questions on marriage and youngsters begin to come about. I do know that if I’d have informed my mother sooner about our relationship, it could have put her in a spot the place she can be like, ‘Oh, why not discover somebody who’s nearer? Why do it’s a must to look to this point for love?’ So I simply wished to just about affirm and solidify me and Kirsten’s relationship earlier than I used to be capable of take the subsequent step and introduce her to my household…I wished to have extra privateness for us to benefit from the honeymoon part somewhat bit extra.
Julio had his causes for holding Kirsten a secret, although I would not blame 90 Day Fiancé: The Different Method followers for considering he took it to the intense. When she pressed him for solutions on how he prevented mentioning her after they had been truly residing collectively within the Netherlands, he defined that he merely informed her he was abroad working.
Kirsten could face an uphill battle discovering acceptance with Julio’s mom as nicely. Whereas discovering out he had a girlfriend wasn’t fairly as massive of a deal for her, his plan to maneuver and reside together with her within the Netherlands shall be a difficulty. Kirsten could possibly be seen because the particular person pulling her son away, which could put a pressure on each of them.
Julio and Kirsten have some points of their relationship, however their issues really feel comparatively small in comparison with a few of their different 90 Day Fiancé: The Different Method co-stars. They might have jealousy points or misunderstandings of veteran forged members like Daniele Gates and Johan Geronimo, and people points have solely escalated on this newest season. Hopefully, they’ll work out any bizarre emotions they’ve about their small points earlier than they evolve into one thing greater.
90 Day Fiancé: The Different Method airs on Mondays at 8:00 p.m. ET. Tune in to see extra taking place with Julio and Kirsten’s storyline, and whether or not or not they will make it down the aisle and begin a brand new life within the Netherlands.
